allow a greater latitude for the relief of loneliness through whatever types of intimacy experience and experiments indicate are, in appropriate situations, rich in human values. In a world threatened by overpopulation, there is no point in attaching so high a premium to generative penetration. Level 8: Aesthetic Sadomasochism

Although sadomasochism is similar to horseplay there is sufficient difference to warrant a special classification. In practice the two sometimes overlap, as beachplay between the sexes; but generally one leaves off where the other begins. I am using the term sadomasochism in a somewhat special sense, restricting it by the adjective aesthetic to a type of physical-and-verbal intimacy in which the aggressor, through the infliction of mild-to-moderate pain compels the loved one to feel him, to feel through him, to be occupied with him. The term, as here used, does not include aggressiveness resulting from anger, inconsiderate acts of sheer cruelty, or masked sadism manifesting itself as enthusiasm for war. It may, however, find expression in the masked sadism manifesting itself in the disciplining of children as well as in the marked masochism manifesting itself in the deliberate provocation of corporal punishment. It is unfortunate that the adult need of intimacy at this level should so often have to vent

itself upon the children in a one-sided manner which the children themselves cannot appreciate.

Although the love spanking almost belongs to the inventory of normal love, it is surrounded by so many taboos that in sophisticated society it is almost extinct except in play with small children, and even this generally restricted to close relatives.

Level 9: Unrestricted Osculation With the practice of walking upright, wearing clothes, and living in

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well-lighted partitioned homes-instead of in dark crowded caves and nests in the woods opportunities for unrestricted osculation have diminished. A one-sided and somewhat inconsistent over-emphasis on hygiene has excluded from osculation most of the areas toward which all animals, including Homo Sapiens, naturally gravitate. Although confidential surveys suggest that practice is more liberal than precept, many are excluded from all forms of osculatory intimacy not approved by the guardians of morality.

Alcoholism, excessive smoking, and other neurotic form of oral gratification are part of the price that is paid for the maintenance of this over-delicate attitude. The greater portion of the price, however, is paid in sheer loneliness. As one psychiatric patient, starving for intimacy, said: "I want to taste every girl to see what her flavor is."

Level 10: Non-Generative Penetration

While loneliness may to some extent be diminished through creative activity, rituals, and approved types of intellectual and sensory stimulation, it can hardly be eliminated except through literally or figuratively penetrating or being penetrated, overcoming disunity by becoming one. This may to some extent be achieved verbally, and to some extent through generative penetration, but by neither of these can loneliness be completely conquered. Other types of intimacy appear necessary-especially when an individual, because of nature or circumstances, is unable to function potently on levels 2 and 7

Although there appears to be no general agreement as to what extent the vicissitudes of penetration are desirable, the study of human behavior suggests that variety of types of nongenerative penetration, effective as they are in relieving loneliness, cannot be completely repressed. Any attempt to outlaw such expressions of intimacy